Life only comes with one instruction – “live”. There is something very wrong with a world where it is considered acceptable not to follow this one instruction and cut short the most precious gift of “God” the “universe” or whatever deity you choose to accept. How can a man with ALS survive for more than 30 years and have the world hanging on his quantum theories suffering the same problems as Dr. Turner (Jan ‘06 article on Dr. Turner on the BBC’s website (posted on the PSP Forum 3 years ago): http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4625538.stm)and others who’ve chosen to end it. Others write books while stricken, or paint paintings. Many are involved as grandparents, dog owners, cat owners, friends and find value in their own existence such as it may be. I doubt an atheist would have an easier time making peace with the decision to end life, after all an atheist has less time to live in this universe than those who believe there is “more” what ever this may be, heaven, becoming part of the universe’s intelligence, or a new soul recycling old bits of ourselves. My own opinion is that she suffered less with her neurological problems than she did with depression and the failure of those around her to help drove her right to those greedy Swiss “doctors”.
As for patients living in various forms of denial, I must commend it as a coping skill. I wake up everyday and compare myself to the day before, worse or better, and in this way I fail to notice how much I am actually losing, the increments are always small. I avoid lengthy introspection, that is depressing. If I comparted even to six months ago I could be brought to tears. Six months ago I could complete in two days what now takes me a week, and much I can no longer do at all. When it comes to my future it is the same, today and tomorrow, no long range plans. Lengthy introspections are avoided, they take me to the edge of the abyss ad that is not a good place to be.
I hold on to my dignity as much as possible. I will not be seen on bad days. Clothes no longer have complex fasteners nor are they tight fitting, and the heels on my shoes are lower and broad, but I look nice, and I try to sparkle around people because it makes all our lives happier. Being around people is valuable only when they are not taking you by the hand and walking you through “what if” thoughts or being frightfully sad for you – the only way to react to that is to become sad, maudlin, angry and guilt ridden – all at once. I am a very direct person, it helps, I tell everyone what I need and want and those who can deal with it are in my life, and those who cannot are not. Not surprisingly my family was relieved to be told what I needed and what I wanted as far as being sick went. I arranged for the brain donation papers, I wrote what I wanted down on paper and signed and witnessed. I wrote some letters to people who I felt would need that letter to hang on to if I were suddenly gone and things were left unsaid. Since then those letters are largely not needed as I don’t think anything remains unsaid. What a weight that is lifted off the sick shoulders.
On spectacularly bad days I wonder am I worse or have I been here before. Happily I journal about the illness (as if it had it’s own life), and I can pick up a volume (ten years of journaling since being diagnosed) and answer how many other times I have had such a day, or not. I also have set of photos taken those years taken without makeup, and this too shows low and high points, a progress gallery of sorts. The journals and photos allow me to observe more objectively and this does not give way to panic, I don’t need to personalise that if I do not want to.
We die of complications, and if our general health is spectacular chances are we can live a long, long time, and the decline will be less rapid. Beyond that just wanting to live – attitude- is paramount. I am in love with life, all of it, I look forward to every spring,delight in every animal I can see or interact with, I love the sound of children laughing, a cat purring, beautiful music. I like to laugh, I like to learn, I like television mysteries. I don’t concern myself with an afterlife, there either is or isn’t, if there is I hope to be considered deserving enough. I could content myself with just the life I have. Perhaps because my life has been filled with pain and loss not of my own making I pick and choose what to react to, often the only choice I had.have is “do I want to be happy today or not?”
I could make a very long list of what this illness has cost me, every one of us could, but I have also gained, I take nothing for granted, I know today could be the last. That said I’ve outlived some of my young friends all of whom died before turning 40. I have seen their last days of trying to draw breath. I cannot dwell on it, the pain of dying in some cases is awful and in others not, and nothing can prepare you for either so cast aside those notions.
Dr. Hawking continues to find joy in life, and wouldn’t it be frightful if you took yourself to Switzerland to terminate; and the day after, the pharmaceutical giants announce a breakthrough to regenerate sick brains.
Meanwhile I try to stay with my yoga every day, even if it is very little, I take care of myself as much as possible, and I find reason to be happy. I tried the lithium, it didn’t work , feeling a little desperate for success I asked the doctor to maybe let me try again, but he said no, it made no difference and it won’t next time either. The definition of insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome.
Parkinson drugs work on Parkinsons, and my current doctor did not push me to try. Other doctors wouldn’t even treat me unless I tried them, imagine, some doctors also turned me down because my condition was to complex. It never occurred to me a doctor could turn down treating a patient, what a revelation.
Life was worse when no doctor would treat the symptoms, somehow there not being any treatment translated to doing nothing at all, finally the current doctor was willing to treat symptoms to make life bearable. Buscopan stopped the drooling and the extreme vertigo and my hearing became better, narcotics for pain, neurontin for peripheral pain (the kind narcotics don’t help), burning sensations and to a lesser degree the arrythmia, duvoid for my bladder dysfunction (retention) and trentall to make my blood flow better. Other symptoms are managed by natural means (yoga, diet, lifestyle, laughter,friendships)
The greatest casualty of my illness was having any social life or productivity with rewards (an income), those I have a hard time with. Being connected on the computer is invaluable, and every time someone tells me what I have written has helped it makes up for all the paychecks I have missed out on. I can travel via the computer and the television, and as I said I don’t think it helps to dwell on losses. Being sick has changed nothing as far as who I am, I never felt defined by how society views me or by what toys I own or what mountains I’ve climbed, so being a potted plant is just fine, as long as I can be well tended. Even an atheist would prefer living to the alternative, death is not a rational choice.
aletta
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My life is no picnic. Like most persons with these diseases I cannot sleep, eat, walk, talk well. I have had to repeatedly teach myself toilet-ing to prevent incontinence. I have had the torments of being treated like a child by the well meaning, and the impatience of those unwilling to wait for my considered answers. Sometimes my food has to be liquid, and other times my stomach is a bottomless pit because my broken brain tells me I have to keep eating. I am in constant pain where my neck and face contort from spasms, as do my feet and legs and on bad days my hands also.
I am pitied for my pain and at the same time often criticised for taking medications to deal with them so I can function and remain independent. Plainly life like this sucks. My friends have given up on me other than an occasional and polite query by email or telephone. My relatives visit sparingly as they have very busy lives themselves. I come from a background of stern stoic people who expect you walk it off and keep the condition out of public sight. Most of my life is spent at home in this chair.
My social life is here in this chair, at the computer. I have adjusted the keyboard with Velcro and tiny non slip pads on the keyboard. I use a trackman mouse alternating with using directional keys on days i am too shaky to guide the mouse. It is all very laborious. I detest not taking a shower every day, but the fact is that I haven’t that level of energy, there is only so much, sometimes you choose eating a second meal and other times skip the meal and take the shower. I am deeply grateful I live where they have affordable (well sort of) cable television, this is how I remain part of the world around me.
I have a dog, two hamsters, three cats and a fish tank, that makes me happy. The dog gets me up and around, he tells me when someone is at the door, protects me when i fall outside, helps me up, tells me the fire alarm is going off, and he thinks I am the best human being alive, he could care less if I am sick of well. I happily feed them all and keep them clean. I dread a time when I might no longer be able to, but for now I feel tremendous responsibility which for me is an excellent motivator.
I know for me the best way to deal with the disease is to keep moving to keep doing and if it becomes too hard, find alternative ways of doing it. I utilize strips of Velcro, clothespins, anything. I avoid certain foods because they make my life worse but make an effort to continue eating because general health needs to be excellent in order to avoid slipping backwards into the abyss at break neck speed.
This disease sucks for having taken my livelihood, my marriage, my dreams for the future, savings from the past, friends, skills, dignity. I am going to be 55 next week. Finally I will be eligible for some senior citizen programs (I hope),after ten years of not being eligible for anything because I was not old enough nor had a popular disease with a support/association to help out.
Now we’ve come to my but. But, it is not the worst disease, not by a long shot. I have had friends die from far more horrible diseases and at much younger ages. Unlike Huntingtons I have my ability to think. Unlike most cancers there are no awful, painful and frightening treatments, which may fail. I have had no body parts amputated. My mother had her breast amputated in her forties and she grieves the loss each and every day. A friend of mine has Scleroderma and has her body slowly turning into virtual stone until her lungs will no longer expand and contract. She is not old, and has not had a normal day with her children as she was ill from the time they were young. Mine is not the worst disease. I have worked with persons with HIV and full blown AIDS, grateful for the experience because I learned a great deal about coping from them. I have held them as they reeled from unrelenting projectile vomiting when taking their drug cocktail the first few weeks, and they were the ones fortunate enough to have access to those drugs.
I am just old enough to remember polio and TB, I think both of those were worse too. Happily I have no mental illness, which I think is much worse, especially since this society treats them worse than lepers and criminals. I think the elephant man was much worse of, as are many deformed by disease or fire/accidents in a word where we are most often judged on appearance first before anyone bothers to get to know “you”.
While I think I was “tragically” young in my early forties to be sidelined by disease, I did have a life, and the accompanying memories to live with the rest of my life. I had children, I had a happy marriage (for a time), I had a career (ballet) which I loved, I had friends, admirers, I travelled far and wide (it could never have been enough), I owned businesses, I won awards for everything from drama to swimming and running hurtles. There are children who will live their entire lives confined to wheelchairs, and many will not get past early adulthood, they will have fewer happy memories than most of us. My disease is not the worst, most horrible or dreadful.
For ten years now I have known that my life will in all likelihood be much shorter than expected – we have such a sense of entitlement, everyone expects to live into their eighties or nineties. Best not waste your life away, I didn’t – never enough to suit – but definitely I have done more than most ever will, and I am not done yet. It is becoming sport for me to see just how much I can still do, accomplish and contribute. Friends may have written me off, doctors may have written me off, but I have expectations of myself. Those who know me best simply expect I will continue to pull the proverbial rabbit out of the hat day after day and outlive everyone. I just might rabbit, I just might.
It is neglected in discussions of these kinds of disease that much of what decides prognosis has little to do with disease and more with our energy and spirit to keep fighting. It is and exhausting illness, pulling rabbits out of hats, looking fine when you are not, learning and relearning basics like using the toilet or swallowing every day. When every step has to be mindful, every word taking multiple attempts to process appropriately, hallucinations sorted out until they make sense, it can all be done but the cost is life energy, we are being drained of it every day. How do you replenish this energy when eating itself drains you?
I can tell you only what works for me and some others I have share this with. I need to be loved, even if just by a furry little hamster, I need to be tended and helped with the mundane so there is some energy left for the stuff that gives me back dreams, conversation, laughter, being with people.. I need kindness and patience, don’t finish my sentences for me, just wait, or let me write it down, or I will shut down and stop trying, encouragement is so helpful. I speak as slowly as I write but in reading this you’ve no idea if it took Aletta five hours or fifteen minutes, the computer has the patience to wait for input, too bad people don’t.
We are in a society which feels entitled to the best and most of everything. Once someone has a condition which takes away a good lot of those implied entitlements they fall outside the acceptable field of vision. Shunned for not measuring up, shunned for reminding us the entitlements are not there for everyone. These diseases are harder than most for friends and family because the terminal nature of the disease is apparent sometimes years before the end (decades in my case). Most hospice programs will jump in and help only the last 6 months, but when would those 6 months be? We exhaust everyone’s good will, they even doubt in some cases where you’ve managed to maintain the appearance of wellness that there is anything wrong with you at all.
For me the greatest insult is now “but you look well”. More convenient to have grown some horrible tumours to show for it, deformity or total wasting, or at the very least have the good graces to be seen in a wheelchair. They dread to see you die, but, are worn down by the length of time it is all taking. Somehow they are convinced you are not joining in because you don’t want to, because you “look fine”. I am not given credit for the mind boggling amount of time and effort it takes me to get dressed and walk upright. So not living up to what is considered “normal” and not keeping the pace of life I find myself out of phase, and yes, it is isolating.
While medications take care of much of the symptomatic misery and pain the isolation of not being able to keep up (energy, financially, socially) and know it will only get worse and you will die. Everyone dies, but the luxury of denying it is gone for me, there is little available energy yet I find I must use some of it denying the reaper every day, much like brushing one’s teeth. There is one benefit, I take nothing for granted, I love life, even the bad bits. I would have said at 20 that I would never want to live this way – just shoot me if it gets to that – but I’ve changed my mind – I want to live. Every day I find one bit of it large of small, grandchild or cottonwood fluff that makes life so incredibly glorious that to put and end to it prematurely is so very wrong.
Fortunately this disease can have the pain and discomfort dealt with, and that gives me the comfort required to enjoy and take part in living, even if most of it is in an armchair by the computer with my doggy beside me. I am not in a hospital hooked up to multiple machines in absolute agony, that makes this far from the worst, most dreadful disease there is.
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foir all the kiddies but especially Monty and Maya
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I’ve been on this road of neural death with diagnosis attached for about eight years. Granted a few years beyond the typical prognosis, and I should be happy about that, but it can be a mighty grim path to travel. Of late, it has not been lost on me that I make this journey solo, without a “significant other”, “life partner” etc.
In this society that is a great disadvantage. Add to that some other disadvantages such as being and immigrant with no well established extended family. There is no pension of nest egg built before becoming unemployable, I was in my mid forties the nest was just emptying out and I was embarking on those years one typically uses to build that security for later. Along with my unemployment went the long term disability, pensions etc. Although dutifully paid somehow it was not there when I needed it. Had doctors been a little more willing to attach a diagnosis I might have had some eligibility, but it took them too many years. The only other sources for services are faith based charities and I am not a card carrying member of a parish or church, nor should I have to be to be cared for when I need it. Yet the government underwrites the faith based charities where you sing for your supper, including those where first you stand in line along the street for a few hours for your tray. There is lots of food but few are allowed to hand it out, charity is heavily regulated.
The safety net insists you use up all savings and holdings before you have the eligibility to be on “welfare” and unless you are first on welfare, disability applications are not taken. I was unemployed for several years before my application was accepted and two appeals before it finally went through and I was destitute. From that point in life there are few ways to recover your standard of living.
On my own I could not afford to rent anything other than a room, an “SRO”, which means no security, no privacy and most of them are very scary places with no accessibility for persons with wheelchairs and other needs,. My son, who is also disabled shares and small one bedroom apartment with me, he has the bedroom, I sleep in the living room, this we can just afford. This way we both live a marginal but private, secure and dignified life. However we are tied by need to each other, if either of us were to leave the other would be unable to afford the apartment, it is a pretty scary world if you are disabled and single.
As world finances are in turmoil you can’t help but be fearful that the first cuts will be made to services, not corporate bailouts. Anything less than what we have now will put us on the street. You wouldn’t do it to a dog. Horrible choices – if you can call them choices are always put before you, accept and apartment but lose the dog and kick your disabled kid to the curb. I was shocked they would even consider that a choice.
What I have learned is that what one social worker said to me many years ago “you’re still attractive why not find a man and get married before you lose your looks”. I was disgusted, basically I should consider my only means of certain survival is to find a man, any man, or woman, and live out of his/her pocket. Take some abuse if need to, love isn’t necessary, just would be nice if they liked us and treated us kindly. Wow, we’ve come a long way as women haven’t we? Not far from the poorhouses of the Dickens’s novels I read in my youth. As it is my survival depends on my son sharing the apartment. I am at all times at the mercy of someone else. The notion that there is a safety net is bogus. I am not safe, far from it.
Horrifyingly I continue to deteriorate and I don’t know how long I can manage, continue like this. As it is now all my time is spent either sitting in a chair trying to keep busy with the few abilities I have left, or hygiene and housekeeping to very basic level. No more cooking of full meals, it is heat and eat now. I have simplified my wardrobe so I can quickly wash in a sink and let dry fold and put in a drawer – no ironing, no complicated fasteners. My one great joy is taking out the dog once a day.
Everyday I agonize that there is noway I can still even hope to make some income. I have tried, but stories didn’t find publishers, only a few paintings were sold, and I no longer have any energies left to do promotions. Friends are all gone, some keep in touch but at most I see a friend once in 6 months. I cannot remember my last hug, ir was about a month ago. I am human, I ache for human contact. I am often upset by my deterioration but have no one to speak with about it. No one holds my hand, no one gives me a hug.
I try to feel good that at least I am not dragging a husband into this depressing scenario, cold comfort. Again I find myself living in a world where the only way to feel safe and cared for is to be coupled up with someone who feels committed to stay, and preferably has an income and insurance as well. If there really was a safety net this would not be the case. If i had my own income I might be able to purchase the services of a live in or out companion. I think with a little help I could still do some writing, painting and if fortunate find a market for it as well and have something to leave my kids.
Where did it all go so terribly wrong? Being and immigrant is the wrong thing to be, I cannot draw on what my parents and grandparents had built up back home. My marriage went to bits and I found a very sexist world still existed. A world where doctors would speak to your spouse as though you were not even in the room, but without a spouse no useful information was imparted not were your complaints given the same weight as when expressed through the spouse. We have not come a long way as women, not at all. Not being a member of a wealthy or at least charitable church puts me with less resources to draw on.
I find it offensive I should buy into a faith for the sole purpose of a better standard of living, it is repugnant. I learned during the early years that Catholic for the most part was not considered “Christian”, and if I were to mention having first been raised Buddhist, well, there were many suddenly refusing to break bread with me among my “Christian” friends. Worse still was the realization that much of these resources were funded by our tax dollars, and to me faith should not be attached to faith.
Also I found that some diseases are better than others, and mine did not fit with any of the big organised disease charities. The one small organization which finally accepted me as a member, the BC Ataxia Association, still grumbles that mine is only a “sort of” ataxia unlike the inherited versions. Even the on-line support group which was set up for the disease which I was diagnosed with found my trials of unorthodox treatments so offensive as to attack me for it until I left. I was brought to tears with all those attack emails, and on top of it many of the member of that group suffered from very different diseases than mine. I stuck with my unorthodox treatments and at least I am still alive, beyond my prognosis.
Really though, should someone struggling as hard as I am have to suffer so many indignities, often at the hands of those supposed care for me and all those in my position. There are days I feel guilty for being a single immigrant with no nest egg or portfolio, unwilling to kick dog and son to the curb and live in some roach infested SRO until the desire to live is good and dead, then with my power of attorney in the hands of a government run nursing home I will quietly be given just a little too much morphine. That is the thought that does make me cry, quite often lately.
I need only a little help and encouragement, like a potted plant needs fertiliser, sunliight and water, and so does every person finding themselves in this position because I am certainly not alone, there are persons everywhere in this predicament, we don’t all have in home carers, many struggle on their own. If my hands fail utterly and cannot type, my voice falls silent, no one will type for me. People wither without human contact, you don’t get many hugs in my position. Even family stays away because seeing me so different from what I once was is “too depressing”. Of course their lives are busy, and visiting me is not convenient.
I can scream “but it isn’t fair”, and I think I would be right, but fairness does not live in this world. Women most especially were fighting wrongly for equality when instead they should have fought with all members of the human race for fairness no matter the gender, ability, race or faith. I cannot be equal when I cannot do what you can, but I should be able to tap into fair treatment as you can. Winter allows for more thoughts on the passage of time, and it raises my fear level, one hopes to end life in a better world than the one we were born into.
We should at least laugh when we can.
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Study for Chalk Dancers
Chalk Dancers is still a work in progress.
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It was roughly a year ago that with much haste a building a block away from mine was closed and the tenants marched out without even a chance to collect belongings. Why? Well apparently the building was not up to health and safety (leaks and mold). That of course describes a great many of the lower rental units in East Vancouver and probably much of the rest of Vancouver as well. It isn’t hard to rent a sub standard unit when people are desperate for a dry place to spend their days and nights, in some safety and with some privacy.
Along with many of my fellow renters spend some time in terror of having the same done to us. Our landlord spent a little more time making sure it was at least cosmetically acceptable. Our landlord also tried what he could to get illegal rent increases out of us. I’ve lived here ten years and I am paying less than new renters. Mind you, the landlord did not need to spend much on paint or carpeting compared to units turning over annually with plenty of damages. Our neighbours complained we were a haven for drugs and prostitution. I am sure they’d rather have us gentrified and stratified.
The building which was closed, we were told would be repaired and reopened, someone even said the former tenants would be able to move right back in. Not a thing has been done. I took my camera there today and snapped these photos, the building a whole year later. Uninhabited except by one lone security guard, and, according to the sign, his dog. More than eighty units, where once over 100 people with low incomes, including disabled and elderly uprooted from their home, their community. Taken away was their shelter, their sense of security, their privacy. So much for reasonable enjoyment and security where you pay your rent. No notice had been given. How do you regain your feeling of security after a life event such as that?
*as it silently sits – no sign of progress – 2100 block Pandora Street Vancouver BC*
How hard could it have been to repair the damage and move everyone back in? Our building had it’s roof repaired without anyone having to move out. Ironically across the alley from this building today as I was taking these photos was another building of about the same age but even shabbier, still occupied, covered by a blue tarped and partially gutted to make repairs. NO big hoopla moving everyone out and into the streets, Instead the building has a temporary fence around it and one security guard, the lights still work, so utilities re still being paid. More than eighty units enough to house at least 100 people and pets. Correct me if I am wrong, but we need the housing space.
*this building still occupied, despite being in same shape, if not worse – 2100 block Triumph Street Vancouver BC*
Instead of repairing this building everyone is being led down the path of considering that SROs are the answer. Probably because the city owns so many of them. Are SROs housing? Not in my mind. Shared bathrooms among people many of whom are quite seriously ill with communicable diseases (Hepatitis, Tuberculosis, Pneumonia, etc.), the lack of privacy, lack of space, lack of being able to furnish and personalise, lack of security, unable to cook, entertain – this is not living. Those with addictions need proper services, first deal with the addiction then housing, but while dealing with the addiction they too need to be housed. I just wonder what wisdom decided moving may of the city’s poorer senior population into a neighbourhood where they make ideal victims for mugging and other small crimes.
Until people are given some dignity and privacy they cannot recover and become once again part of a functioning community SROs are not the answer. We need more rental units at lower cost build rental housing, good housing have part at market value and the rest at market value but subsidised, no one need know who is paying what so all dignity is preserved. SROs are a step back to the time of forced labour and poorhouses. This is a wealthy country, we can do better than that. Get rid of homelessness, stop the terror among the vulnerable, one step away from homelessness, especially among those with low incomes or small pensions such as seniors and the disabled. We need more liveable units, not SROs.
So when you vote this coming Saturday consider if this is likely to change in a way that favours not just the few who can afford to party all during the Olympics but also the common many who is under uncommon pressure to hang onto a safe decent little life.
It is simplistic to assume people with little money would be more troublesome as neighbours. It is also shortsighted if we would not recognize that living in poverty where there is no comfort no feeling of “enough” – enough food, security, health, love, respect – without the help of one’s neighbours how can that ever be overcome? There can be no era of peace without the elimination of crushing poverty, so if one wants to keep all the goodies without finding a way to help one’s neighbours you have sealed your own fate.
As for the specifics, I don’t own a home, never have. I don’t own a car, I have no dishwasher, washer, dryer. Until I was disabled I worked, frequently at more than one job, I did volunteer work, I ran for public office, raised kids, kids who not once were in trouble with the law. I have never been arrested. I don’t get drunk, don’t smoke – anything, but I do live in the poor neighbourhood and my neighbors own their house, but I haven’t caused them grief. The attitudes toward “us” who live in these low rent building, has hurt me, and doubtless all of us on the lower rungs, very much.
Most of the people causing all the grief are not poor, but for them the poor make a good shield, easier to terrorize the poor, after all who will listen and help them fight back? Among the poor count the disabled, the widowed, elderly, single parent, couples just starting out and students.
So tell me, where should these people be allowed to live in your world? Poor houses with barbed wire to keep them away from your precious housing? If people commit crimes your taxes and mine go to pay for police. Call them, get the criminals off the street, but just yet it is not against the law to be poor, destitute. Mind you all sorts of laws have been put on the books to make life as miserable as possible for those who’ve lost everything and ended up homeless, vagrancy, street vending.
It is against the law to be vagrant, but yet no suitable homes are being built nor is there a way to assure they can ever afford it. Fines are levied for begging, but welfare cheques need to be mailed to an address, and if you haven’t got one…? Is it humane to allow a person a bed but shoo them out early in the morning. Dogs at the SPCA are treated with more kindness.
That infernal NIMBY (not in my back yard) attitude must change. Poverty is not a crime and not a disease, it is not catching. That empty building is an eyesore and getting worse by the day and is a monument to what does not get done when it comes to creating actual homes for those who need it. For the love of all that is good and kind do not again vote for the same lame lot that have let this all go on for far too long. If you want a city to truly be proud of find someone with courage to make changes, take a chance on someone other than the usual big boys club. Take and interest and don’t vote out of habit, vote because you truly give a damn.
- just a footnote – my son Gölök Buday is running as a libertarian alternative as a Mayoral candidate – his site: http://BCindividualist.org
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Bubbled Crow
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Fluffy Therapy
On days that I feel unwell and I am in need of a mind walk and some easy social contact I turn to my Pengi, George, a virtual pet adopted through the use of a Facebook application called Fluff Book. You pet and feed your own Fluff and those of others with Fluff pets. You can give gifts, form groups and even create FluffArt using their Flash editor. There are contests, special offerings and ways of earning munny (Fluff currency) to buy your Fluff all the luxuries and a few extra items for more creative art editing. I rarely recommend anything, but this is an exceptional Facebook application and I find it utterly therapeutic. It should be made available to all shut ins and residents in nursing homes and hospitals, so they too can have that connectivity in their lives that being chronically ill and housebound takes away from you.
If it sounds right for you, all you do is join Facebook and adopt a Fluff, if you get lost along the way, just use this link and I’ll walk you through it.
At Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=534156066
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It was on the news the last few days. I have to wonder how they didn’t see that coming? There have been enormous outbreaks of infestation in the east end for at least a couple of years. I’ve blogged about it for at least two. The health department knew it, I spoke to them about it. The social worker (I am on disability) I spoke to about my fears of the infestation knew all about it. It was someone from the department of health who told me about lavender, also boric acid, but I knew about that already. I took the photo below in August 2006, when the problem as already being addressed in our building in east Vancouver.
I grew lavender on my balcony, it was sprinkled into my carpet on rinsed into the bed sheets. Now I understand why in the old country people, old people, did that. I was horrified at the thought of being infested. we looked into better housing but that is easier said than done on what disability allows for shelter.
I had read about bedbugs in vancouver dating back to 2004. They didn’t see it coming? Example of previously know instances; http://bedbugregistry.com/location/BC/V5L/Vancouver/1855-E-Georgia-St/ , just run a Google search on “bedbugs vancouver 2004 2005 2006″ and there is plenty. So why claim this is new to Vancouver? Why blame overseas travel? More like it’s not a problem as long as it happens to the poor and destitute. Short sighted thinking. eventually if you don’t deal with it from the beginning, it will spread. Just like tuberculosis is going to spread, and an assortment of other maladies. There will be roaches everywhere, bedbugs in the best hotels during the Olympics. Shameful. Where does the fault lie.
The commentators blame overseas travel as the source. well guaranteed on the pitiful disability and welfare allowances for shelter and food we are not traveling abroad and bringing them back with us. What utter crap. It just means no one wants to take responsibility for having turned a blind eye to a part of the population crying out for better circumstances and not being listened to, not a bit. The poor are being wished away and swept under the carpet.
Well, last summer we found one. I went berserk, I took it as a personal failing that it happened to me. Even though I knew the building manager had not, even with professionals on the job. managed to get it under control in the “red zone” units. As I mentioned I am disabled. I struggle to maintain an acceptable level of housekeeping. Eight years ago I was assessed by the health department as requiring daily help with my housekeeping and very briefly someone came in to help me, but then the government changed and all the services ended. I am not the only disabled or elderly person struggling just with the daily housekeeping, there are many. I spend so much of my day that it it leaves little to no time and energy for anything else, like enjoying my life, or seeing a friend now and then. It feels a lot like punishment, though I’ve done nothing wrong. I am fighting war against squalor and there is no government department who will help directly.
As I was saying we found one last summer, now it may have been a straggler brought in from the hallway or even elsewhere, but tat didn’t matter, what mattered was it was here and we could not know how settled it had become. So we searched the Internet for solutions beyond the lavender and boric acid. We found a product called “Thwart” and ordered it, the testimonials seemed real enough and their claims supported. We spend a full and exhausting week cleaning everything inside out and spraying as directed. It isn’t toxic to an or pets so we could stay in,and if it worked not one stick of furniture needed to be discarded. Within a couple of weeks no other had made an appearance and with the stuff active for six months we could relax a little. Just to be completely safe we also bought, at London Drugs, something called diatomaceous earth, (read about it here: http://www.tallmanscientific.com/bed-bug-control.php and here http://biopestcontrol.com/html/diatom_dust.html) basically dried sharp edge diatoms as found in seawater, so sharp it cuts into he bugs walking over it and dehydrates them from the outside in, whereas the boric acid works when licked off dehydrating them from the inside out. We did both. Our landlord (whatever the typical image of a landlord in the east side) refunded the outlay of the spray bought on-line and the manager delighted that it had worked. So there was hope.
The battle however is ongoing. As long as there is poverty and insufficient help for those who need it, whether it is better housing, more expendable income to take care of an infestation, or housekeeping for those too ill to it for themselves. For as long as there are the poor, the rest of the population will blame them, the poor here, and the poor abroad, even though, as mentioned before, we can’t afford to travel. Poverty will keep infestations like this and others, communicable illnesses, addictions, mental illness and crime which uses the desperation of the poor to let them do the dirty work with promises of getting them out of the rut. The poor will use discarded items keep or resell items and not know they are infested and it starts again elsewhere. Bugs don’t care if you are rich or poor, as long as your blood is warm.
It is hard not to smile a little when hearing t hit the other side of the city has the problem now too, but really i ant the problem and others like it to be addressed ad eliminated – for all of us. I once lived in the west End for 12 years, my kids went to school there and I worked there. Then I became ill with a progressive neurological illness and dependent on the safety net. The same one I had paid into for thirty years. Only to find out it had gaping holes that no one is/was interested in fixing. Disillusioned that I had been taken advantage of all the years I worked, and now had to skip meals to afford some bedbug diatomaceous dust.
You skip meals for every little added expense, or when the price of something like a loaf of bread goes up. My days are taken up with cleaning which hurts and exhausts me. To depersonalise and insult the disabled further we no longer have our own workers, we are numbers only. Find it insulting that disability has no distinction, our cheques are the same as welfare checks, I feel insults us, and we are given no system of our own, trained to help us specially.
When the hoops are just too hard to jump through, you make do, because there is no energy to fight for your rights and needs. Forced to live as we are, when we have no energy left for housekeeping at all, the bugs, the rats, and crime will take what little there is left. Reality is that many if not most of us cannot work, we get progressively weaker. The mayor’s much applauded plan to have many disabled working during the Olympics disregards those of us who struggle for a breath, a day upright, and a future of worse days. The Mayor insults and ignores us, much like the province does. We live in fear, and listen to announcements of surplus, corporate bailouts, expensive studies into problems which are obvious and have obvious answers. Pardon me if I smile a little. You might want to think about he spread of old foes such as tuberculosis, because now is he time to do something, the bedbug is a warning.
The best way to deal with crime, mental illness and the spread of these plagues is to address poverty, not by studying it, but by making sure everyone has their basic needs – food, shelter, safety, belonging and acceptance (love), health – met and their dignity back. Until that is done, here will be plagues and outbreaks on your side of the city as well as mine, I was mugged a few months ago, and there have been robberies in Kerrisdale too. When it happens to the other side I cannot help smile,but it comes from my pain. Fix it and we can all smile for far better reasons.
At least I have housing,my own bathroom and I have my dog. Life is tenuous when you are poor, and most of the poor here are either disabled as a result of poverty or became this poor because of a disability. You live here in a daily sense of loss and a fear of future losses.
So pardon me if I smile a little that the other side has some bedbugs, at least they can afford it. If the other side wants to prevent this sort of thing they are going to have to address poverty. Instead of bailing out corporations perhaps they should work on a real safety net and rid this city of its poverty, now that, and not the Olympics would be a true achievement.
other articles I’ve written on the topic:
http://my.opera.com/alettames/blog/show.dml/271571
http://my.opera.com/alettames/blog/tenancyuncertain?cid=3995978
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Tags: bedbugs, city, living, needs, plagues, poor, poverty, rich, social justice, tuberculosis, vancouveer, west end
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